Because this is just fascinating to me

[mag_pie]

"Children who have an involved father in their lives in the early years show up for school with more of the qualities needed for learning. They are more patient, curious, and confident. They are better able to remain in their seats, wait patiently for their teacher, and maintain interest in their own work."
- Building Blocks for Father Involvement, National Headstart Training Center

Well, that explains a lot about Barney...

Seriously, the more I learn about child development and welfare, the more I understand Barney as not a caricature, but as a real person. :)

Comments

[magpieinthesky.livejournal.com]

Honestly, it could be any number of things - they literally can't take care of the child, whether due to poverty, mental health, drug or alcohol use, the mother might not want the father there for a number of reasons, in a mother leaving the child's case, the child might be a result of rape... But it IS hard on the parent. I don't know of any studies out there, but in the experience of the person who was at my class today who is in charge of COUPLES-based parenting and involving the father where he may have been absent for any number of reasons before and trying to help eliminate those reasons, those fathers become a lot happier when they are actually involved with their children. It's like they get something back in their lives that they were meaning. It seems to be especially the case for men with multiple children by multiple women.

[secondmezzanine.livejournal.com]

Obviously what you're saying makes a lot of sense. Certainly I'm sure there are some "good" reasons out there for why it happens.

I'm currently blinded by the situation right in front of my eyes... where there's a perfectly healthy, financially stable parent who plain and simple isn't interested in taking care of their child. Kinda breaks my heart when I see that there are a lot of people out there who would LIKE to be there for their kids and for whatever reason can't, or people who really desperately want children but aren't able to make it happen for biological/financial reasons.

Sigh!

[magpieinthesky.livejournal.com]

You're right. It is hard, and in that situation, I have no clue where that motivation/lack of motivation comes from... but it has to come from somewhere, right? And in the case that you're describing, I don't know that there are programs out there to address that, which is really sad and frustrating.

I don't know either! :(